A fun and entertaining movie, the ending reminded me of something that I have always believed to be true in good BDSM relationships.
The Sub in a BDSM relationship is the person who is in control!
(And they should be the person who is in control)
A good illustration of this is the safe word! All BDSM relationships should have a safe word for the Sub to use.
That safe word is a big red nuclear button! It doesn’t matter what the Dom does, if the Sub hits that button, it nukes everything! Nothing stops a nuke, and nothing stops a safe word.
So when the Sub is the only person to have a safe word, they hold the power to nuke any play/event/situation, and there is nothing the Dom can do to stop that.
p.s. As a Dom, to any Subs. If you use your safe word, and your Dom doesn’t obey it… You have the wrong Dom!
這是一部有趣的電影，結尾讓我想起了我一直認為在良好的BDSM關係中最重要的現實。
那就是，BDSM關係中的Sub，其實才是掌控者。
最能代表這個概念的，就是安全詞！ 所有BDSM關係都應該有一個安全詞供Sub使用。
那個安全詞是一個巨大的紅色核按鈕！ 無論Dom做什麼都沒關係，如果Sub擊中那個按鈕，它就會讓一切都回歸到現實！ 什麼都沒有阻止核武器，沒有什麼能阻止一個安全詞。
因此，當Sub是唯一一個擁有安全詞的人時，他們擁有核心的能力，且Dom無法阻止它。
附： 給所有Subs的諫言: 如果當你使用安全詞，而你的Dom不停止時……你沒有選對你的Dom！